Posts Tagged ‘support’

You Want to try Meth?

Posted: January 28, 2013 in Managing life
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Think back to something really exciting in your life. At my old age, I’ve got MANY!!

In high school, I was excited when David asked me out, when I received a valentine-gram in class, when I was nominated for homecoming queen, and when I graduated.

In adulthood I was excited when my children were born, when I got a promotion, when I graduated from college, when a publisher sent me a contract to publish my book.

There are many, many more things than these, but I remember being super happy when each of these things happened.

Meth multiplies that feeling times 100. The problem is, you’re never able to return to that level of normal happiness after you’ve been a meth user.

Imagine getting engaged and not feeling happy or landing that perfect job and feeling mediocre about it. This is unrealistic anyway. If you’re a meth user, you’re not landing a great job. You’re not in a healthy relationship. You’re not finishing college or living in an awesome house.

The first couple times you use meth, it’s awesome. Every time after that, it’s not so great. And don’t forget, you’re never getting back to normal feelings of happiness and joy.

I met a 16-year-old girl the other day who has been using meth. She has the “meth splotches” on her face: red marks that look like crap. She also has the scabs along her arms from picking at perceived things crawling on or under her skin. She looked like hell. But, the real problem wasn’t how she looked. It was what she was experiencing thanks to meth use.

She had been hanging out with “friends” earlier in the day, using meth. At one point, one of the other meth-users demanded this girl’s phone. She probably wanted to trade it for drugs. When the owner of the phone wouldn’t give up the phone, her so-called friend pulled a knife on her.

The rest of the night was the typical meth-induced paranoia. She thought she kept seeing people who were coming to kill her. She was convinced this girl was related to the mob and had put out a contract on her.

In reality, the girl was probably out smoking meth. The drug has both of these girls held hostage. This is typical.

I see people of all ages held prisoner by meth.

I met a 56-year-old woman who has been using meth for a few years. She has no teeth. Her skin is scabbed and splotchy. Her cheeks are drawn. She can’t stop talking. She has had most of her personal possessions stolen. She lives alone in a dump with a bug infestation. She has no transportation. No money. No joy in her life at all. She is ready to die.

Meth sounds like a fun time when it is offered to you. But, read the fine print. Life will never be the same again.

The joy and pleasure that you experience naturally…the awesome experiences that come to you…those are enough! That excitement is something you can experience for free over and over throughout your life.

Protect your happiness. Say no to meth.

Check the Street Signs

Posted: July 7, 2012 in Managing life
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What road are you on?

I met a 17-year-old young man the other day. His parents are separated and both drug users. Mom is in a domestic violence situation with another drug user. These adults have burned all his bridges for him: none of the family members want anything to do with this clan.

This young man turns 18 in 5 months. He has no job, 1 high school credit, and a probation officer (partly due to past heroine use.) As soon as he turns 18, he’s on his own…and he’s got no one and nothing at this point.

I also recently met a 14-year-old girl. She has been using alcohol for about a year…drinking heavily on the weekends, sneaking out of her house. She was treated for alcohol poisoning recently. Do you know what that means? If someone wouldn’t have noticed something was wrong, she would be dead today. In addition to the alcohol, she uses marijuana and has tried spice and various other things.

She has everything she needs: lives in a beautiful house in an expensive part of town, goes to a good school, mom and step dad are providing her with really cool stuff and money.

Both of these kids are on a dead-end street. It ends in death or homelessness or mental disorders…or all of the above.

The guy got on the wrong road because he had people pointing him in that direction and he didn’t stop to think about where he really wants to go.

The girl got on the wrong road because she wants to make sure she is doing exactly what her mom doesn’t want her to do. Mom tries to control her and she reacts by NOT doing what mom wants.

We all turn down the wrong road sometimes, but the important part is recognizing it and turning around. We have to keep in mind where we want to go. The choices we make today determine where we end up. I can’t get on a plane bound for South America and expect to end up in Europe. The girl wants to become a surgeon. She’s on a road that can easily lead to rape or death. It’s definitely not the road to medical school.

Where is your road taking you? Are you making your choices today based on where you want to go or turning down the street that happens to be right in front of you…where your friends are? It might be time to get out the map and make a plan. Don’t let your parents get in your way. Don’t let your friends talk you into something you don’t want. You’re behind the wheel. Map out your route today.

Help!

Posted: October 4, 2011 in Managing life
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A few weeks ago, near my home, a 13-year-old boy hung himself in the school bathroom. He was a popular kid – well liked. His parents said he was the “easy one.” So why would he kill himself? No one knows for sure. Maybe some of you have thought about it, so you can speculate on what might lead a great kid to kill himself.

Or, maybe you have a friend who has talked about suicide or attempted suicide and you see what they’re struggling with.

If you know someone who has successfully completed suicide, I’m so sorry. I have seen what the survivors go through. Their emotions can range from extreme sadness to guilt to anger. Often times those dealing with the pain of loss think about killing themselves too.

Suicide or suicide attempts are usually due to a person feeling stuck – there is no way out. Maybe they are suffering some sort of emotional pain and don’t see an end to it. Maybe they have a physical illness that causes chronic pain. Perhaps they are being abused and feel the only escape is to die. Life gets hard. The pain is unbearable sometimes. In those situations, some people contemplate suicide as the way out.

If you are someone who is thinking about suicide, I am going to give you a link at the bottom of this post for some phone numbers of people who want to help you. If you are someone who feels alone and that no one cares, you may be surprised to know that there ARE people who care. For example, I am writing this blog because I care. I work in a difficult, low-paying field just because I care about kids…I care about young people who are hurting. People who work on telephone hotlines do it because they care. Some of them work as volunteers, so they don’t get paid. They simply do it because they want to help someone who may be in need.

If you KNOW someone who is thinking about suicide, you may be unsure of what to do. Many kids are afraid to tell anyone because their friend will be angry. I would much rather have an angry friend than a dead friend. Even though they get angry, they will understand that you did it because you care. You need to tell someone, but who?

* The kid’s parents: The parents need to know unless there is a risk that the parents will hurt the kid.

* Your parents: Your parents may know how to get help for the kid and the family, how to approach the family with the information, and they may be able to help you support your friend.

* Your school counselor: Counselors are bound by confidentiality unless someone is in danger. They are also obligated to take steps to protect someone in danger. When you tell a counselor, they will have to do something about it. Plus, they will have resources for your friend and the family.

* A trusted teacher: Just like counselors, teachers are obligated to take steps to protect someone in danger. They will know who to go to for further help.

* Your clergy/pastor/priest, etc: Again, these folks are obligated to keep things confidential unless someone is in danger and they are obligated to help someone in danger. They are usually really good at supporting the family in a personal way too.

* Any trusted adult: If they don’t know what to do, they should know who to go to for information and direction.

* If you feel your friend is in danger right now, call 911. It is the fastest way to get help to their front door and keep your friend safe until further help can be provided such as a crisis team or a hospital.

I found this great website that lists hotlines by state: http://www.suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html

They also have resources and a forum. It appears to be a great support for folks who are struggling with life. Please check it out: http://www.suicide.org/

Although we may not have met, I care about you. Your life is valuable to me because I believe you were created special. You have a purpose in this world.